Separation Anxiety is a super common presentation we see during the school year, it can pop up at the beginning of term, raise its head during brain spurts or even when you least expect it.

One of the best things you can do is prepare them in advance. Talk about what’s coming up positively and reassuringly—let them know what to expect, who will be there, and when you’ll be back. Kids thrive on familiarity, so the more they feel like they know what’s happening, the easier it will be. It is also prime time to incorporate some mindfulness into your day as a family, doing a grounding technique, 5 big deep breaths to turn the car on, practicing a positive affirmation ("I'm brave and safe and strong and loved"), a gratitude statement over dinner and celebrating any moments of being brave!

A solid routine is also super important. Having a predictable morning and goodbye ritual gives kids a sense of control. Something simple like a hug, a high-five, or a special phrase (“In a while crocodile!” - I have added a list of these at the bottom to make it fun). This can help them feel secure when it’s time to part ways. It’s also important to validate their feelings—if they say they don’t want you to go, rather than brushing it off, acknowledge it: “I know it’s hard to say goodbye, but I promise you’ll have fun, and I’ll be back soon.” This may be a good reminder to consider the kiss and ride drop-off option to help build independence and resilience during drop off. This can support necessary skill building as they move through school years and really show them that you know they can do it!

When it’s time to say goodbye, keep it short, sweet, and confident. Long, emotional farewells can make things harder, and sneaking away can create more anxiety in the long run. Instead, give a quick, loving goodbye and go—trust that they will settle. If they see you’re calm and confident, they’re more likely to feel the same. Another little tip to help promote togetherness is to draw a heart on their hand and one on yours, to show your invincible connection, that heart is filled with your love all day long. Give them a "sticky hug" because sticky hugs last all day. Draw a X marks the spot and fill it with kisses so that they can take one from you throughout the day. Leave a little note for them in their recess.

Always make sure and leave your child with a safe adult, handing over a child who is experiencing anxiety to a loving adult will ensure their psychological safety. Do not try and sneak away, a quick, calm and confident goodbye and into the hands of a warm confident adult is the best action you can take. If you know your child needs this type of warm handover, reach out to the teacher who can be on hand to take your child into their comforting care. This can further be bolstered by speaking positively at home about your child's teacher or teaching assistant, then at handover, they are being cared for by someone their parent trusts and speaks highly of.

Most importantly, be patient. Separation anxiety isn’t something that disappears overnight, but with a little reassurance and consistency, your child will learn that goodbyes aren’t forever—and that they’re safe, loved, and capable, even when you’re not right there with them.